You’ve had your first date, so what’s next? Should you contact them, or wait to hear from them first if you’d like to see them again? Firstly, you need to decide how you feel the date went and how you feel about them. Ask yourself if you feel like you “clicked” or, find yourself thinking “kind of”, “sort of” and “a little bit”. How a first date ends provides a great insight into how well you hit it off.
No matter how many times you’ve been on first dates, it’s human nature to hope that this may be the last ‘first date’ you go on if you’ve found the right match for you. But, sometimes it’s so easy to be flattered if someone is obviously keen on you, that you forget to check your own feelings.
Talking to a friend can help with any worries and help to process what you’re feeling, rather than fixating on if your date liked you. And, if you’re honest with yourself and don’t want to see them again, wait until they make contact with you and then politely say thanks, but no thanks.
If you do like them though, rather than calling, a first step to making a second date is best orchestrated with messaging. Sending a text can be less intimidating, especially if your date is less interested than you’d hoped for. Resist any temptation to rush things. If they are interested in meeting you again, they’ll reply and then you have the opportunity to see if they’d like a second date.
If they respond and say they’d like to see you again…what about the venue for the second date? The best idea is to discuss it with them rather than making specific suggestions. Ask them what they’d like to do – it’s a good way of seeing what they like and if you like the same things too.
One piece of advice though, keep family and friends away from your next date. A second date is an opportunity to find out more about the other person, to see how comfortable you are in each other’s company and to see how you get on. It should be about getting to know each other and not other people forming judgements for you.
Try to do something different for your next date. If you go to dinner for every date, you’ll only get to know this person in those circumstances. To make sure if they are right for you, you need to find out how the other person responds to different situations and people. Doing different things on each date keeps things exciting and fresh in the beginning. Take turns in planning dates and doing something together that you’ll both enjoy, which will tell you more about the other person.
Remember, dating is a gradual process and a good relationship is a marathon, not a sprint. If it’s meant to be with this person, it will be… Whether you’ve been dating for a while or are new to dating, with the help of Asian Elite UK you can meet your perfect match.