Good communication is an important part of all relationships, helping you to connect to your partner. Having a healthy approach to communication can make it easier to deal with conflict and build a stronger and healthier connection. As the French writer, Guy de Maupassant said; “It is the encounters with people that make life worth living”.
The reality is, if you want your relationship with your significant other to succeed, it will only do so with communication from each of you. A relationship cannot flourish and blossom if only one person is constantly communicating how they feel. It’s based on equal parts, expressing feelings and how you feel.
The key is to realise that it takes two people to communicate and each person has different communication needs and styles. Healthy communication requires:
- Time set aside to talk without interruption from other people or distractions like phones, computers or television.
- Thinking about what you want to say.
- Being clear about what you want to communicate.
- Making your message clear, so that your partner hears and understands what you mean.
- Talking about what is happening and how it affects you.
Here are some ways to improve communication and strengthen your relationship:
- Small talk is important – while what can seem as mundane, insignificant details, they are actually more likely to improve how close you are to your partner. Those tiny details provide clues to who a person is and what interests them.
- Talk about the things you have in common – you’ll find a common ground to work from.
- Take the time to listen carefully – when you know that you’re being heard you’re more likely to create a feeling of connection to one another.
- Don’t assume anything, ask questions – you won’t always know the answers to what your partner is thinking or feeling, but talking will give you a good idea.
- Find a healthy balance – that comes down to talking and listening and it’s important that you both get a chance to talk and listen.
We all have a strong need for connectivity. That’s why in relationships, we need to talk to each other. No matter how well you know and love each other, you can’t read your partner’s mind. When we talk and listen, relationships stand a much better chance of success.